To blog on what happened after that tiff, I find it childish. Nonetheless, it is good to blog as it would help me remember how we resolved it and celebrated his first bday post-marriage.
J tried to get me out of my shell as much as possible. I was behaving my usual self busying myself with the usual chores at home because its only between the two of us. However, the tiff kept running at the back of my mind and making me more upset with every passing minute.
Post-dinner, it was time for bed and the two of us were still not in our normal comfort self. He tried to coax me for one more time and I relented then as it was becoming heavy on my hand. He tried to put across his point that I reacted too soon about the dinner plan and that we could for the movie in the weekend. I put across my point that I admit having reacted too soon and it was because of the disappointment that he pushed "our" quality time away. I mentioned that he could have suggested a movie with me and then dinner with his folks and me. He seemed to agree but yet again pointed out my reaction. I explained that it was not possible to react when someone special acted quite insensitive and change plans without consulting. I ended it with the point that I agree that I reacted and anyone in my place would have done the same. He cant always be the right one. The tone in both our voices at this point of the argument upset the air even more than before. One more word and things mite get anywhere between good or bad. Both did not know what was the word though. :) It was like how they show in movies - we just turned away showing our backs to each other.
After a few quiet awkward minutes, I realized that his bday was coming near and wanted to resolve it at the earliest. I was upset. So was he. But it was his special day. I did not want this thing to go on and slowly got back to talking. And then came the deeper lying issue - he was upset that I had used the word "turn-off" when he mentioned parents. Thank God he brought it up. I clarified that it was not for his parents but for his change of plans. I could not have ever called his parents a turn off as it does not apply at all - I live with them and that should explain what I feel about them - as family ofcourse. He has all rights to spend time with them on his bday and its ridiculous to think that I dont want them. I only want an ideal solution of "our time" and "family time". That whole point thawed the ice for good and we arrived at a mutual decision of going for a movie after work and then dinner.
Clock struck 12. The boy was wished for his 31st bday from his newly wed wife and there was peace. He did tease me that I had tried to resolve it before his bday. :P The bday went peacefully with work and kungfu panda and a simple dinner with his folks. He surprised me with a peck (right under his parents' nose and ofcourse away from their eyesight or hearsight) when he saw the text Versace on the gift. :) Officemates tried to ask what he got from me and it was show-off time. Am glad he liked it. They tried to rag us during his cake-cutting but J knows how to save face. :P
All in all, I am a good girl, u see. And the spouse is not so bad. :P He is a sweetheart actually but the previous blog learnings will always hold good. I hope he has a great year ahead and I hope to be a part of it for now and ever. :)
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